Punishment is a tool of the Dom for training the behavior of his slaves. It is a means for reinforcing the behaviors that you wish for her to do, as well as for punishing her for poor behavior. Punishment can be confused with things like discipline and sadism so I will clarify these differences. I will talk about when to employ punishment and why. It is also important to discuss how to employ the punishment so it helps her remember and change the undesired behavior. And finally, a Dom must accept the punishment as the full repayment for the misdeed and be completely forgiving of her afterward.
Punishment is, at its essence, the heavy hand of behavior modification. If she keeps doing something that’s bad for her (eating chocolate bars and drinking coke, for example) and she just can’t quit on her own…a little fear of the immediate consequences goes a long way in eliminating the behavior. Of course, punishment can also be used for extremely bad behavior – like lying to your Master. And the way it is enforced makes it extremely clear to your little girl what pleases — and what displeases you.
There is a difference between discipline and punishment. Discipline is training the mind and
body so that she learns and becomes accustomed to various actions. It is the demanding of her holding certain positions, keeping good posture, grooming, etc. And re-enforcing these commands with a strict eye to see they are performed correctly. If they are not, then punishment can come into play, but discipline may be accomplished without any punishment.
What is punishment? Of course punishment can be inflicting any sort of physical pain such
as spanking, flogging, paddling, clamping. But it can also be anything you know you slave finds particularly unpleasant or humiliating. Punishment can be confinement in a cage or a closet. Or punishment can be challenging for her like holding difficult positions while time her…punishing her physically if she fails to hold and maintain the position. Punishment can be useful like making her do laundry or dishes. Or punishment can be the denial of something (think ‘no internet’ or ‘no texting’) — and the worst punishment I have in my vocabulary as a Dom is denying her orgasms for an extended period (this is particularly effective as my slaves are accustomed to cumming at the very least 20 times as day on a barren desert of a day.)
How to punish your slave. Mentally address the behavior and speak to it as you punish her
for small infractions. For a large infraction — it may call for a punishment session. This should
be done soon after where possible. However, a small gap in time may be useful to send you slave off to ponder what it is she has done and anticipate the punishment. Have you slave return and apologetically present herself for punishment because she needs and deserves it. Then punish her and during the punishment, interrogate her to discover her mindset and address this as you continue to punish her. Be sure she understands that you are punishing her to improve her and that you are holding her to a higher standard than she has been accustomed to hold herself. You are doing this for her benefit. When the punishment is over, send her away to ponder the lessons you taught her. And then, finally, forgive her. Yes, forgive her. She needs this…although you don’t need to say anything to address this but in your heart, forgive her. Every time.